Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples Seattle, WA. Seattle

You Can See the Pattern.

You Just Can't Stop It.

Individual Relationship Therapy

Online Therapy Serving Seattle, the Eastside, and Washington State

Certified Emotionally Focused Individual Therapist

You've done enough self-reflection to know that something in how you show up in relationships isn't working. Maybe you go quiet when you should speak up. Maybe you push too hard when you should give space. Maybe you see yourself reacting and can't stop it even as it's happening.

You're not oblivious. You're not in denial. You're someone who has thought about this — a lot. And it's still not shifting the way you need it to.

That's not a character flaw. That's what happens when insight alone runs out of road.

How we work together — and what shifts

We start with the cycle you're in — the pattern that keeps repeating regardless of who you're with or what you try. Using EFT and an attachment-based lens, we'll move underneath the surface reactions into the deeper emotions and unmet needs driving them. We'll look at the parts of you that learned to protect yourself in ways that made sense once — but are now getting in the way of the connection you actually want.

This isn't about taking on the entire emotional load of your relationship or blaming yourself for the dynamic. It's about understanding your half of it with more clarity and compassion than you've been able to access on your own.

What shifts is the relationship you have with your own reactions. You'll develop more flexibility — more space between the trigger and the response. You'll get better at knowing what you actually need and saying it in a way that can be heard. And you'll build a stronger internal foundation so that connection with your partner, or a future partner, feels less like a minefield and more like something you can actually navigate.

You don't have to wait for your partner to be ready. Sometimes shifting your side of the dynamic is exactly what starts to change everything.

Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy for Relationships

About the approach

I use Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy — the same attachment science that underpins my couples work, applied to individual therapy. It's not generic talk therapy. It's specific, focused work on how your attachment patterns shape the way you connect, protect, and respond in relationships.

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This work is for you if...

Your partner isn't ready for therapy — or doesn't think there's a problem — but you know something needs to change
You're already in couples therapy and want your own space to go deeper into what's coming up for you
You're between relationships and determined not to carry the same patterns into the next one
You find yourself overfunctioning — taking on the emotional weight, managing the dynamic, trying to hold it all together
You care deeply but your needs keep getting buried under frustration, shutdown, or self-doubt
You want to show up differently, but your nervous system is already reacting before you've had a chance to think

Ready to Get Started?

If you recognized yourself on this page, you already have what it takes to do this work — the self-awareness and the motivation. I can help you take it the rest of the way.

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How do you work with someone whose partner isn't in therapy?

We focus on you — specifically on what happens in your body when you're in conflict with your partner. When we explore what gets triggered in those moments and what you do to protect yourself and the relationship, we can start to find different responses to use instead. Ones that are more likely to get you what you actually need rather than continuing the cycle.

What if I can see my patterns clearly but keep repeating them anyway?

Insight alone runs out of road — and that's not a character flaw, that's just how the nervous system works. Seeing the pattern in your head doesn't automatically stop your body from reacting. So we slow way down and start paying attention to what's happening in your body — because that's where everything starts. When you build a stronger connection to those physical reactions as they're happening, you create space to regulate, to ask for what you need, and to respond differently instead of reacting in ways that keep you feeling lonely even in a relationship.

How is this different from just talking about my relationship problems?

Talking about your relationship problems tends to leave you more frustrated and angry with your partner — and that's not how I want you to leave a session. I'm not here to help you build a better case against them. I want you to leave with a clearer understanding of your own wants, needs, and triggers. We'll work on boundaries that protect you without closing off connection, and on understanding your attachment fears well enough that they stop running the show.