Therapy at this level isn't cheap and I won't pretend otherwise. If you've landed on this page, you're probably doing the math and wondering whether it's worth it.

But before you get sticker shock and bounce away, there's another calculation I want you to make:

What is it costing you to keep living like this?

Not just financially. Emotionally.

What does it cost to spend another year having the same fight you've already had a hundred times?

To rehearse what you want to say because you're afraid bringing it up will turn into another argument.

To explain what hurts, again and again, and watch nothing change.

To lie next to the person you love and feel completely alone.

To wonder whether they actually care that you're hurting — or whether maybe you're asking for too much.

To spend so much energy trying to fix your relationship that you're exhausted everywhere else in your life.

And eventually, to start asking a question you may not actually want the answer to:

Can we fix this, or do I need to leave?

That's the cost people rarely calculate when they're deciding whether therapy is "too expensive." By the time many couples reach me, they've already been paying it for years.

And yes, there can be a very real financial cost if the relationship ends, too.

The average divorce in Washington State costs between $11,000 and $13,400 in legal fees alone — and that's the low end. Contested divorces, cases involving children, or those with significant shared assets can cost tens of thousands more. That doesn't include splitting retirement accounts, selling a home, maintaining two households, or the years of financial rebuilding that can follow.

But I'm not telling you to invest in therapy because divorce is expensive.

I'm telling you that if your relationship matters to you, it's worth finding out whether what's happening between you can actually change, before exhaustion, resentment, and hurt make that decision for you.

And if you're going to invest in couples therapy, the person doing it matters.

Couples therapy is categorically more complex than individual therapy. A therapist without specialized couples training can inadvertently take sides, focus on the content of your arguments instead of the pattern underneath them, or sit back while the same painful dynamic you have at home plays out in the therapy room.

You don't need another place to have the same fight.

You need someone who knows how to recognize what's happening between you, slow it down, and help you change it.

I'm a doctoral-level psychologist, a fully certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist, and I've spent more than a decade specializing in this work. EFT is one of the most rigorously researched approaches to couples therapy available.

So what you're investing in isn't an hour of conversation.

You're investing in specialized expertise and a structured process designed to help you understand why you keep ending up here — and learn how to stop.

Because the question isn't only what therapy costs.

It's how much longer you're willing to pay the cost of staying exactly where you are.